How to become the Real
the problem with womanhood is- women are under pressure to become
what other people want. We have number of roles for women to play,
and those roles together define our undertanding of" womanhood".
Whether full-time homemakers or professionals-all these are valid
expressions of womanhood.
Roles are important.
They are like sets of clothing. You wear different ones for different
tasks. You are important than the roles you play,just as you are more
important than your clothing.
It would be wonderful if the people around you-husband, family,friends,
neighbors,colleagues-saw the essential inner you all the time instead
of whichever role you happen to be playing when they're around them.
But often they don't. In fact, they may expect certain things of you
just because you are a woman and not a man.
You don't have to be bound by other people's expectations of you.
You are more than just a homemaker more than just a professional,
more than just a female.
in your life has a lot to do with becoming "what God has made
you,and you alone to be."How to become the real you?
Discrimination is a major problem for some women, and its not
always their fault. Whatever role they play, some feel undervalued
unappreciated, or deserving of more respect than they get.
In the scriptures,
men and women have equal worth before God, though have different roles
to play. Galatians 3:28; Ephesians 5.
In her book, " You can too" , Mary C. Crowly (of
USA) talks about building self-esteem and self-worth.Her solution
was to encourage women to put God God first in their lives. why? becasue
-"God don't take time to make a nobody". If God is moulding
you into a unique & special person-worthy of respect, remember
God's promises-give Him first place. take a stand and He will be with
you. Read: Isaiah 3:10, 65:22;Psalm 31:19; Philippians 2:15; i Timothy
self-esteem or self-worth:(Mary C. Crowley)She has done
much to motivate the women of her generation toward success &
fulfilment. She built a multi-million dollar business from scratch,
made her slogan "Think Mink", a byword for professonalism,
and wrote abestselling book titled "You can too".
Once conducted a poll among her employees at Home Interiors. she
wrote afterwards,"when the answers came back, I was astonished.
From all over the country the answers returned the same: I just
can't cope...I don't feel that I can accomplish anything...I don't
have any self-confidence.." so many of these american women,
who had every possible freedom to fulfilment in life, said the same
thing.They lacked self-confidence. They felt inferior as persons,
as wives and mothers, as businesswomen.
Mary says, I almost could not believe it. These well-dressed American
women were all "Vogue on the outside and vague on the inside."
They didn't want to be that way, but they didn't know what to do
*Do you believe
that God takes an interest in who you are? are you trying to become
what He would have you to be? then don't make a career out of self-abasement.
*Learn to respect yourself so that others will respect you too.
In short,"be somebody".
*Have the right self-image: Romans 12:3,"..not to think himself
(herself) more highly than he ought to think; but to think soberly,according
as God hath dealt to every man the measure of faith."
*Say and believe that "you can do": (Philippians 4:13.)
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