Choosing Your Friends
Friends play a major role in shaping our lives, for good or evil. That's why
God's word is insistent in reminding us that "bad company corrupts
(1 Cor. 15:33). How can we choose godly friends?
Let's look at seven important questions to consider when doing so.
1. Do they have a good track record?
Many people "talk the talk", but are they also walking it?
Lord Jesus said," A tree is recognized by its fruit" (Mt.
2. Do they respect your principles?
You say that sex should be saved for marriage. Do they keep pushing
you to compromise your stand? "See to it that no one takes you
captive through hollow and deceptive philosophy, which depends on
human tradition and the basic principles of this world rather than
on Christ" (Col. 2:8). A person who does this is no friend.
3. Do they give to as well as receive
from you? Good friends do both. Some times God gives
you something for them, and other times He give them something for
you. "The pleasantness of one's friend springs from his earnest
4. Do they sharpen your life? Are
you improved by being with them? Good friends challenge and encourage
you to excellence. "As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens
another" (Prov. 27:17).
5. Do they build you up?
Because of their own low self-esteem, some people love to tear others
down with their words. But God wants you built up, not beat up by
other people's self-interest. "encourage one another and build
each other up" (1 Thess. 5:11).
6. Do they treat others well?
Someone once said that the quickest way to find out what a person
is like is to listen to what he says about others. If people are always
judging others they will do the same to you as well. "Let us
stop passing judgement on one another" (Rom. 14:13).
7. Do they encourage your destiny?
Good friends will believe in you more than yuou believe in yourself.
They can see something in you that nobody else sees. They don't want
to exploit your gifts or manipulate you for their personal advantage,
but want to see you reach your full potential. "A friend loveth
at all times" (Prov. 17:17).
Here's the bottom line: If you want to grow spiritually and mazimize
your God-given gifts, choose your friends wisely. And remember, "A
man who has friends must himself be friendly" (Prov. 18:24).
And keep in mind that someone considering you as a friend must be
able to ask these seven questions about you as well.
**********************Letter #15 (27. 4. 2003)*********************