to Make More Time
If you’re a new father, get ready to make quite a few adjustments for
the sake of your wife and kids. Being a good dad usually means sacrificing
some activities that are precious to you—activities that you’ll
But, as “veteran” fathers can tell you, it’s worth
it. There are few pursuits as rewarding as investing in those who
will carry on your legacy.
One veteran father, Wade Horn, offers these ideas for how to make
more time for your child—for new fathers as well as for dads
who feel like they’re falling behind a little with their kids.
Idea number one: sacrifice one leisure activity.
I know I may be stepping on sacred territory here—some of you
are virtually addicted to golf or sailing or bowling. But, I’m
really only asking you to prioritize your goals—especially while
your kids are young. Who knows, as they get older, there’s the
chance that you could rediscover that old hobby or sport with them
at your side.
A related idea is this: trade one solitary activity for a
family activity. Your solo mountain climbing expeditions
could turn into family hikes. Trade your kayak in for a three-seat
rowboat. Instead of going to the gym, go to the playground.
Third, look at your spending habits. Even if you’re
not facing money challenges, a financial self-analysis often reveals
your priorities. Where your treasure is, there your heart will be
And finally, look into some creative work arrangements.
If you use a computer most of the day, maybe your company would allow
you to telecommute from home one or two days a week. Taking work home—instead
of working late—may also be an option. Or, adjust your schedule
to an earlier or later shift that better fits your family. Maybe a
four-day week is a possibility. You never know unless you ask.
I’ve heard it countless times: at the end of your life, you
won’t be thinking about your golf handicap, the biggest fish
you caught, your career accomplishments or even your stock portfolio.
You’ll be wondering what you should have done different with
your kids. Dad, you can make that difference today.
***********************Letter # 20 (1. 6. 2003)*******************