You Become Confident?
Establish your worth
according to God's value system. God demonstrated
our importance to Him in two great acts. First he created us in His
own image, and second He-through Jesus Christ- died for our sins.
God thought so much of you, believed in you, and saw you as a person
of such worth, that He allowed His Son to die so that you could live.
When we begin to see ourselves in light of God's actions on our behalf,
then we immediately begin to have more confidence.
Another way we become confident is to
focus on God and not on our situation. Try living
according to the first three verses of Psalm
27. We can make three observations: First, confidence
is not the result of an absence of problems. It is very clear that
the psalmist encountered many problems and difficulties.
Second observation is that confidence is a result of trusting God
in our problems. In the midst of his difficulties, the psalmist kept
focussing on God and not on his difficult situation. "The Lord is
the defense of my life."
Third, victories yesterday give more confidence for today. In verse
2 he speaks in the past tense. In verse 3, he talks about today. Confidence
today is the result of victories yesterday.
Another way to develop confidence that convinces
others is to develop friendships with
confident people. The old cliche' is true: Birds of
a featrher do flcok together. A big man is one who makes us feel bigger
when we are with him. If we want to be confident, we must surround
ourselves with confident people, people who believe in us and will
Another way to develop confidence is
to put a few wins under your belt. Start with building
on small successes and little by little you will tackle bigger and
bigger challenges. A few successful victories under your belt gives
you the impetus to keep stretching your abilities. If you keep winning,
you may see yourself as a no-limits person. Repeated failures produce
the opposite effect. You begin to see yourself as a hopeless loser.
The best way to develop rational, well-balanced confidence is to go
after a few victories immediately following a failure. Don't allow
yourself the luxury of wallowing in self-pity.
A great confidence
booster is a personal victory list of past successes and achievements.
This is a biblical concept. There are two Bible characters who practiced
this. Samson, who became a total failure, and David, who became a
great success. In Judges
16:20 we see Samson's victory list. And read the
David's victory list in 1Samuel
17:37 There are two strong similarities between
these two men. They both were chosen, ordained and anointed by God,
and they were both leaders of Israel at a time when Israel was battling
against the Philistines. But this is where it stops. Samson and David
also had three distinct differences. These differences made one a
winner and one a loser.
The first thing we notice about Samson is that he wanted to please
himself. he lived life in the flesh, depending on his own strength,
and felt no need to rely upon God, even when going into battle. He
chose the road that always leads to ultimate defeat.
Unlike Samson, David desired to please God. He knew that, left to
his own resources, he was already defeated. So he called upon th eLord
and went to battle with divine help. His weaknesses became God's strength
and he was assured of victory.
Samson's alienation from God not only led to his defeat, it ended
his leadership. For David, however, this episode with Goliath was
the beginning of his leadership. It was the incident that brought
him into a position where God could greatly use him. Victory lists
should give us confidence, not cockiness.
Another way to increase
your confidence is to quit comparing yourself with others.
Comparison always leave you found wanting. You will get the feeling
of inadequacy when you compare what you can offer with what someone
else offers, etc.
One of the surest ways
to build confidence is to find onething you are good at and then specialize
until you are special. It could be a sport, a task,
a natural ability, or a personally developed talent. Use that strength
as much as you can to build your level of assurance and specialization.
Also, begin to develop
a knowledge of people and product. Remember that success
is just 15 percent product knowledge and it's 85 percent people knowledge.
Once you have knowledge of your product and of the people with whom
you work, you have an inside edge on meeting their needs. This inevitably
raises your confidence.
not throw away your confidence, which has a great reward" (Hebrews
>> Letter # 35 (14.12.2003)